Jaime Needs to Build Friendships in the Blogosphere

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The blogosphere seems empty of life when you first start blogging. Then the magic happens. Your first friend. Surprisingly you find so much in common. ūüôā

Jaime Funblogger¬†wants to find friends. She hopes to create a successful blog, which to her means having to build friendships with readers who comment on her blog. She comes to Patricia Problogger’s site and asks what she can do to attract more bloggers.

Patricia Problogger suggested keeping a journal of quotes from visits Jaime makes as she visits new blogs. 

Let’s Listen

“Whaaaaa?” asks Jaime. “I just want to have fun blogging. I’m already reading and writing A LOT!”

“Are you happy with your growth, Jaime?” Patricia asks.

“It’s ok, I guess. I get new visitors every month. I have 42 followers now after six months.”

“That’s OK. It is. Blogging is not about numbers and traffic. Do build friendships? Do you visit them every day?”

“No, of course not! That’s too many blogs to visit every day!”

Who do you visit every day?” Patricia probed.

“My favorites, of course,” Jaime said.

“And how many favorites do you have, Jaime?”

“Maybe 3-5 faithful friends that I read on most days.”

“Are you satisfied with the way your blogging is going?”

“Hmm, I guess not, or I wouldn’t be talking to you, would I? I just thought my writing would be good enough that people would come to me and read it, but not that many people come back. I mean they do for a while, then they stop. I think I’m in a rut.” Jaime admitted.

Patricia’s Prescription:¬†Three Easy Ways to Build Friendships in the Blogosphere Using the Transformational Blogging Journal

  1. Read more blogs every day.
  2. Cut and paste quotes you like into an online journal.
  3. To build friendships, use these quotes in your blog for the next week’s posts. Give credit to the bloggers, with a link, of course.

One Blogger’s Findings from Using The Transformational Blogging Journal¬†

  • Using the template slowed down my reading. I loved M.L. Kappa’s Blog Parade.¬†Idea – create a blog parade on my blog.
  • Journaling forced me to visit 3 – 4 NEW blogs per day. Here were some of my favorites.
    • This Itch Of Writing: The Blog¬†has a great Welcome page. Her name is Emma Darwin, and she’s a writer. I loved this quote, “But one of the drawbacks of being a novelist is that your big writing project – however excited you are about it – takes so darned long. For months and years, you’re immersed in particular voices and places and times and ideas. And it’s all very well being up to your neck in such rich and rare substances, but what do you do when you get an itch on your nose?”
    • The Day After Musings of a Wannabe Photographer¬†¬†I love how organized she is. I wish I could be more like her. “I try to keep things organized and so I have a schedule that I (mostly) adhere to.¬†I love taking pictures and do so all the time. On Sundays, I post what I consider My Best of the Week.” That sounds doable to me.
    • I got into a deep discussion with Gary about Stephen Hawking¬†and people having a reason for living even though they are disabled. His blog is¬†Fiction is Food.
    • Pete Deakon was another deep thinker but hilarious at times. He had one page, and this is all it said. “Password ¬†¬†If you are unlucky enough to stumble across a post that requires a password, don‚Äôt read it. But it you must, the password is¬†F5.” I was so curious about her password that I read all the comments.
    • Jill Weatherholt Writing Stories of Love, Faith, and Happy Endings While Enjoying the Journey was another blogger I liked. I found her in the comment section of one of my original favorites, Sylvia. Here is the quote I copied, “I‚Äôm a writer. I have a full-time job, but at night and on the weekend, I pursue my passion, writing. I write modern stories about love, friendship, and forgiveness. I started this blog as a way to share my journey toward publication and to create a community for other new writers.” I want to create a community and build friendships that are strong and lasting.
    • Terri Webster Schrandt Second Wind Leisure¬†feels like an old friend already. I met her on a Facebook group page Ultimate Blog Challenges. She loves to do photo challenges, and I was writing a post about photo challenges and just couldn’t get it off the ground. She had a great list, so I quoted her in my post.¬†
    • Susan from¬†Writers’ Workshops by Susan Trestrail¬†used pictures to inspire her poetry, so I used her poem in my article about poetry.¬†

Journaling has made it easy to build friendships among bloggers. I did a search for About after my journal was complete. Here were three more blogs that I particularly liked.

I did another search in my journal for funny and came up with these new blogs.

Now, I keep a create a schedule of what I am going write and which of my friends’¬†posts I will reblog. Reblogging builds friendships fast. I print this out at the beginning of the month with the date and day on each row and write on it by hand.

Drawbacks to Using a Journal.

  1. It was too cluttered. No cure for that. 
  2. There were no indications of who I liked enough to revisit. Maybe I need to rate each blog as I read it. Or highlight the bloggers with whom I felt I could build friendships.
  3. I wrote so much that it was not easy to follow and find things visually. I ended up with about 23 pages because I also cut and pasted in all the new follows from my reader.
  4. Because I experimented, I created new pages and linked the resulting docs at the top of the journal.
  5. Bookmarking blogs works, but since I have my journal open anyway, I wanted a place to find my favorite blog links without searching through 23 pages of notes. To fix that I categorized the blogs in a bulleted list at the bottom of my journal: funny, about pages, blogging (whatever term I searched for). ¬†I carried over the list from the previous month and pasted it at the top of the next month’s journal for easy reference. Eventually, I created a doc for favorite blogs, 2016.

Beyond Blogging

I kept sometimes kept track of the weather and the news to tie me to reality. I did think about those items more because I wrote them down. It was a¬†pain, but I noticed more when people wrote about an issue, and I wrote one post about a news item¬†and my response to it. A friend read it and called me from Los Angeles to ask if I had received any hate mail yet. I haven’t yet, but I have had many comments.


Using the journal took a lot of more time than just reading, but I think the benefits well outweighed the pain of cutting and pasting, rereading, sorting and manipulating my journal. Not only did I get some great ideas, but I will also remember these bloggers just like I remember my first favorites.

To try journaling for yourself by creating a Google or Word Doc. I created a table put one day in each row. Then you can add comments or change it up any way you like. Let me know how it works for you.

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